Episode 16

November 18, 2020

01:09:40

Class and Race

Class and Race
Women Bridging the Gap
Class and Race
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Show Notes

This week we have a big topic to discuss, how class and race intersect. How do White and Black people think of class systems differently? Join us as we discuss the different behaviours and traits that people in working, middle, and upper classes do in different circumstances. Listen to learn why Lenya really didn’t want to do this episode, and keep listening to hear why she’s really glad it happened anyway. Both Alexandra and Lenya get personal and deep, opening up and showing their true selves. A great listen, this episode will make you think about your place and where you want to be. This is the chart that Lenya and Alexandra are examing: https://www.wordonthestreets.net/Articles/481670/Hidden_rules_among.aspx -- Please **rate and review** this podcast if you enjoyed it; reviews greatly help new listeners see this podcast is worth their time. You can find Women Bridging the Gap on [Apple Podcasts](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-bridging-the-gap/id1521503012) and [Podchaser](https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/women-bridging-the-gap-1304390). **We want to hear from you!** Let us know how you’re speaking about these issues with your friends. **Let us know what topics you want to hear!** Join the [Facebook Group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/665585734389981) Email us at [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected]) You can find us at: [WomenBridgingtheGap.com](https://womenbridgingthegap.com) Or on Instagram: * Find Lenya at: [@Lenya_goddess_the_one](https://www.instagram.com/lenya_goddess_the_one) * And Alexandra at: [@a_xandra17](https://www.instagram.com/a_xandra17) and [@thewritingleap](https://www.instagram.com/thewritingleap) * And the show is at: [@women_bridging_the_gap](https://www.instagram.com/women_bridging_the_gap/) This podcast was edited by Brendan Hutchins from Podcast Advocate. Go to [PodcastAdvocate.Network](http://PodcastAdvocate.Network) or find him on [Twitter @PodcastAdvocate](https://twitter.com/podcastadvocate) to learn more.

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