Episode 19

December 09, 2020

00:55:00

Passing The Time

Passing The Time
Women Bridging the Gap
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Show Notes

After a stressful year, crazy election season, and a myriad vulnerable and open conversations about race, Alexandra and Lenya connect to discuss the holidays, both recently passed and right around the corner, and what books and shows each other are watching to destress and relax. This will be the last episode of the season, and after a brief break, we’ll be back with more episodes in the new year, packed with interviews and deep discussions about race and womanhood. Follow us using the links below to stay informed when the episodes will start again, or stay subscribed and we’ll talk to you soon. #### Shows Lenya is watching: [Big Mouth](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt6524350/) [Girlfriends](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0247102/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1) [13 Reasons Why](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1837492/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1) [Kissing Booth](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt3799232/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_0) [Lovecraft Country](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt6905686/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_0) [I May Destroy You](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt11204260/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_0) #### Shows Alexandra is watching: [Top Chef](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0765425/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1) [Project Runway](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0437741/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1) [Law & Order: Criminal Intent](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0275140/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_0) #### Other shows mentioned: [Degrassi High](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0090417/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_0) [Electric Dreams](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt5711280/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_0) [The Handmaid's Tale](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt5834204/) [Grey's Anatomy](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0413573/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_0) [Gentleman Jack](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt7211618/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_0) #### Books Alexandra is reading: [The Seven or Eight Deaths of Stella Fortuna](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/38192874-the-seven-or-eight-deaths-of-stella-fortuna) [Pachinko by Min Jin Lee](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/34051011-pachinko?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=LSfjHJsnOf&rank=1) [Author Tana French](https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/138825.Tana_French) [Veronica Speedwell Series by Deanna Raybourn](https://www.goodreads.com/series/136161-veronica-speedwell) -- Please **rate and review** this podcast if you enjoyed it; reviews greatly help new listeners see this podcast is worth their time. You can find Women Bridging the Gap on [Apple Podcasts](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-bridging-the-gap/id1521503012) and [Podchaser](https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/women-bridging-the-gap-1304390). **We want to hear from you!** Let us know how you’re speaking about these issues with your friends. **Let us know what topics you want to hear!** Join the [Facebook Group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/665585734389981) Email us at [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected]) You can find us at: [WomenBridgingtheGap.com](https://womenbridgingthegap.com) Or on Instagram: * Find Lenya at: [@Lenya_goddess_the_one](https://www.instagram.com/lenya_goddess_the_one) * And Alexandra at: [@a_xandra17](https://www.instagram.com/a_xandra17) and [@thewritingleap](https://www.instagram.com/thewritingleap) * And the show is at: [@women_bridging_the_gap](https://www.instagram.com/women_bridging_the_gap/) This podcast was edited by Brendan Hutchins from Podcast Advocate. Go to [PodcastAdvocate.Network](http://PodcastAdvocate.Network) or find him on [Twitter @PodcastAdvocate](https://twitter.com/podcastadvocate) to learn more.

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